This is a guest post by our friend Keelie. Keelie is married to her high school sweetheart and is the mom of three awesome boys. She is a creator and loves sharing with the world around her. One of her biggest passions is to help married couples fall deeper in love with one another. She offers free printables to help the marriage relationship. You can read her marriage tips at Love Hope Adventure.
There are many women that struggle to orgasm, whether through manual stimulation or during sex. If you fall into that category, there is no way I can possibly teach you exactly how to orgasm, but I do have a few things you can try.
Give Yourself Permission Do What Is Needed
It can be very frustrating when things drag on and on during intimacy. I know that it can be embarrassing if your spouse has been doing everything they can to help you, but you’re not there.
Give yourself permission to do what is needed so that you can reach orgasm. This may mean you have to move around and change your position. It could be that you need something done softer, harder, or longer.
Many women can require a lot of time. Go into the time with your husband knowing that you may be a half an hour or longer getting there.
Focus Your Mind on What Your Body is Feeling
While your husband is stimulating you, focus your mind on what you are feeling. Ask yourself what will feel good next. If you have an idea of a motion that will feel good, let your spouse know.
It is very important that you keep your head in the game, otherwise, you will feel distracted and not be successful. If you start thinking of other things besides the pleasure you are experiencing, it can keep you from getting there.
Look at What’s Going On
Open your eyes and look at what is going on. If you can’t see exactly what is happening by looking down, use a mirror to assist you. Seeing what’s going on will help you to keep your head in the game. Besides, it is a huge turn on to see yourself being intimate.
Embrace Your Sexiness
Don’t look at yourself as someone that is not sexy. You are having sex- you are sexy, so act like it. When you convince yourself that you are not attractive, you reduce your ability to enjoy the physical intimacy with your husband.
Get Your Body Into The Right Position
There are a few things you can do to get your body into the right position to reach orgasm. Whether you are laying on your back, sitting on your knees, or standing, there are certain things you can try with your body.
- Tip your head back
- Pull your hips up toward your chin
- Arch your back
- Use your hands to open the lips of your vagina so you can get in the right position
- Clench your bottom and upper leg muscles
- Point your toes
- Do kegels
These are some of the things you can try during your time of intimacy. It is best to really listen to your body and try different positions.
Breathe and Make Noise
I know you probably don’t want to get loud enough for the kids to hear you, however, you need to make some noise. Moaning and making noise will help you feel more turned on. Not only that, it allows you to breathe.
While you are trying to reach orgasm, take many deep breaths. Be purposeful with your breathing. Take a deep breath in and then let it out.
These are a few of the things you can try if you are struggling to reach orgasm.