How to Give Your Husband a Blowjob

There’s something about a blowjob, also known as fellatio, giving head, hummer, BJ, and going down that excites a man. Blowjobs are a great foreplay technique or sexual act if intercourse is not possible.

So, if you’ve never given a blowjob and you’re thinking about giving it a try or you’re a veteran this post includes everything you need to know about giving your husband a great blowjob that will blow his mind!

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For the Apprehensive Wife

A man can get pretty smelly around his groin area from sweating and make that region off-limits for fellatio. Here are a few tips to freshen up that area and prep it for a blowjob.

Shower Up Big Boy: Before being intimate with your husband, give him a heads-up about your plans, and tell him to scrub that area and the area around it (including his anus) well. Better yet, jump in the shower with him and use cleaning prep as foreplay.

Grooming: Trimming the hair around the groin region helps keep things cleaner down there. It also minimizes those annoying hairs that get in your mouth while giving your husband a BJ. Short or no hair also makes him look bigger.

We suggest getting a Bathmate Trim Manscaping Kit and trim the hair down to about a half-an-inch.

Don’t Use Perfume: Perfumes smell great but taste awful. A clean, natural scent is good enough for most women.

What if he “goes” in my mouth? There are several signs his body gives as he’s getting close to orgasm. They include hip thrusting, deep breathing, a firmer erection, and retracted testicles. We’ll explain in detail how to read these signs and know how far along he is during oral sex later in this article.

You can also slip a flavored condom on him to ensure nothing gets in your mouth.

Getting Into Position

The best position for giving and receiving a blowjob includes these characteristics.

Comfort Is Essential: Neck discomfort during or after giving fellatio is no fun, and we want everyone to enjoy the experience. An excellent oral position doesn’t require unnatural bending of the neck. Limited, up-and-down motion is best.
Tongue-to-Penis Underside Contact: The head and underside of the penis are the most sensitive parts. Lots of contact between the tongue and underside of the penis equals lots of enjoyment for him.
Visually Stimulation: Most men are very visual and enjoy seeing their wife giving them head just as much as feeling it.
Get Hands-On: The ability to use your hands to hold and stroke him is an added benefit when giving a BJ.

Here are a few blowjob positions we highly recommend in no particular order.

Game’s On

Game’s On is a seated blowjob oral sex position that’s performed on a chair, couch, or recliner. It allows excellent tongue-to-penis underside contact, is easy on the wife’s neck, and easily allows her to stimulate him with her hands.

Usual

Usual is a wife-on-top blowjob oral sex position that’s performed while lying in bed or on the couch. It allows excellent tongue-to-penis underside contact, is easy on the woman’s neck, gives him a great view of the action, and allows the use of her hands during oral sex.

Pro Tip: Place a Liberator Jaz Motion Sex Pillow (preferred) with the flat side against his butt or a Wedge Sex Pillow with the high side facing his feet. The sex pillow lifts his pelvis and makes his penis and the area around it more accessible, which puts less of a strain on the giver’s neck.

Slide On Down

Slide On Down is a comfortable fellatio position inspired by Awaken Love that’s easy on the wife’s neck while both spouses are lying on their sides. It allows excellent tongue-to-penis underside stimulation, is easy on her neck, and allows her to stimulate her clitoris with her fingers or a vibrator.

Check out Christian-Friendly Sex Positions’ Illustrated Fellatio Oral Sex Positions for more blowjob position inspiration.

Communication Is Important

You and your spouse are not mindreaders. Communication during oral sex is essential. Tell your wife how much you’re enjoying her with moans, body movements, or words. Show her what you want by guiding her actions with your hands or by telling her.

To Finish Or Not To Finish

Before things get going, you and your spouse need to decide how it’s going to end and stick to it. Some couples’ religious beliefs don’t allow him to finish during oral, and others don’t have this restriction. Some wives don’t mind or like him finishing in their mouth, while other wives don’t. Both of you must be on the same page before starting.

Build Anticipation

Anticipation leads to great sex. Think of your husband’s sexual enjoyment as a can of compressed air. The more you prime it, the bigger and better the release.

Priming him can start with a look, gesture, or text in the morning or during the day that lets him know “it’s on” tonight. This can carry into when you’re starting to become intimate and through the end.

Maybe kick things off with a sensuous shower or by slowly undressing each other before getting into bed. Begin with kissing and stroking everything except your husband’s penis and testicles, and keep this up until he can’t take it anymore.

First Contact

There are many ways you can start fellatio. Here are a few we suggest.

Small Kisses

Start by lightly licking the underside of your husband’s penis. Use long strokes that start at the base of his penis and go all the way up to his head.
Use the Kiss, Kiss Technique to continue stimulating the underside of his penis with your lips.
Lift his penis, and take the head of it in your mouth while rubbing your tongue over it and sucking a little.
After a while, transition to the technique immediately below this one.

Start with a bang using this technique.

Make the “okay” symbol with your hand. Wrap your pointer finger and thumb around the base of your husband’s penis, and point his penis up.
Use your other hand to cup and caress his testicles.
Take your husband’s penis all the way in your mouth while pressing your tongue against the underside of his penis as it’s entering your mouth.
Keep your tongue pressed against the underside of his penis as you lift your head.
Make this motion 5 or 10 times to really get him excited and lube things up.

These fellatio techniques are also suitable for beginning a blow job or when he’s getting too close to orgasm, and things need to cool down a little.

Establishing a Rhythm

Use one or a combination of the blowjob techniques below to establish a rhythm of stimulation.

Supercharge Your Technique

Know When He’s About To Blow

It’s not hard to know when your husband is getting close to orgasm if you know how to read his body. Knowing when he’s close to climax is crucial so you can be ready for his ejaculate, slow down to prolong things using the edging technique, or stop and transition into sex.

Hip Thrusting: When he’s really enjoying things, a man’s hips tend to make a slight, involuntary thrusting motion. This thrusting motion doesn’t mean he’s about to go, but it lets you know he’s really enjoying your efforts.

Deep Breathing: His elevated heart rate will cause his breathing to become deeper. You might hear sighs and moans, too.

Retracted Testicles: Your husband’s scrotum will tighten and pull his testicles near his body in preparation for ejaculation. When this starts to happen, he’s getting near climax.

Firm Erection: Right before he climaxes, his erection will get much firmer. When this happens, ejaculation is imminent.

Tap Out Method: Being able to read his body language is essential to giving a great blowjob, but he can also simply tap you on your shoulder or head when he’s about to go. You can’t go wrong there.

Practice makes perfect! As you give your husband more blowjobs, you’ll learn what he likes and how to read his body more accurately and better estimate when he’s about to climax.