There’s so much more you can do than the simple up-and-down strokes of a typical hand job. We’re going to share several hand job tips and techniques that are sure to blow your husband’s mind.
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Know Your Husband’s Penis
It’s very important to know about the parts of your husband’s penis and how they work. This knowledge will help you be a better lover.
Getting Into Position
The first thing you need to do is get into a comfortable position when giving your husband a handjob. Both of you would hate it if you had a cramp during a handjob.
Getting Into Position for the Perfect Hand Job
Lube is Important
Handjobs generate a lot of friction. The proper type and amount of lube are very important so that your handjob is a pleasurable experience.
Best Lube for Giving a Hand Job
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The State of Your Hands
Remember ladies that you’re handling the most tender and sensitive part of your husband’s body. Psychologically, he’ll make a connection between the way you take care of your hands and the care your hands will take of him.
- Cleanliness is very important. You wouldn’t want him to touch you with dirty hands!
- Make sure your hands are smooth and free from rough spots. To keep your hands soft and moist, we suggest moisturizing them twice a day with unscented lotion.
- Your nails should be very well manicured. The tiniest nick could cause extreme discomfort for your husband.
- Take off any rings or bracelets you’re wearing. They get in the way and feel like rough spots to your husband.
Hand Job Techniques
- Coiffeuse – Great for getting him fully erect using your long hair or a soft scarf.
- Togetherness – Great for learning what he likes.
- Jar Opener – A long stroke with a twist at the top and continuous flow of sensation.
- Penis Samba – A fast continuous flow of sensation at the head of his penis.
- Basket Weave – Long twisting strokes with a firm grip.
- Pulse – Long twisting strokes with a firm grip and pulsing sensation.
- Taffy Pull – An elongating stroke with a little testicle stimulation.
- Batter Up – A long stroke with a little testicle stimulation.
- Basic Attention – A jar opener sensation on the head of his penis.
- Hand Cross – Strokes and sensations that mimic intercourse.
- Fruit in a Basket – Use your breasts instead of hands for this technique.
- Pirouette – A double handed stroking and twisting technique.
- Fire Starter – A back and forth shaft rubbing technique that will light his fire.
- One-On-One Combinations – One hand is stroking while the other is wandering.
- Church and Steeple – A long immersing tube technique.
- Rain Pattern – Like rain drops on his penis.
- One Hand Clapping – A slapping sensation.
- Spinal Massage – A sensual massaging effect.
- Rings – A sensation of twisting rings flowing down the shaft of his penis.
- Bird Cage – A lot of stimulation to the head and upper shaft.
Get the Most Out Of Your Hand Jobs
- Don’t forget to give your husband a great view of your breasts while giving him a handjob. Wear a sexy top or nothing at all! He’ll really appreciate that.
- The three most important things to remember when giving a hand job are heat, moisture, and a snug fit. Keep your hands warm moist, and make sure your grip is snug, but not too tight.
- The head of some men’s penises are sensitive to the point that overstimulation can hurt. If your husband is one of these guys, concentrate more just below the rim of the head of his penis.
- Communication is very important. Have your husband tell or show you what feels best.
- When you’re giving your husband a hand job, make sure a towel or two are close by. Things can get really messy.
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Keelie Reason says
Woah! I must try these out. I feel so dumb when it comes to hand jobs. Thanks for all the tips.
Marriage Bed Tips says
Pretty soon you’ll be an expert and he’ll be saying “Woah!“
Madge Ross says
How long does a hand job
usually last or go for? Is it awkward?
Marriage Bed Tips says
How long a hand job lasts really depends on you guys. It doesn’t have to end with him ejaculating, so you can stop and move on to other things whenever you like.
As for awkwardness, it might feel a little awkward the first few times, but it will become much easier over time.
Jerry says
5-10 minutes or till he can’t take it anymore and insists on you making him ejaculate
Nancy says
Using lubrication, grip his penis very, very loosely and barely touch the rim of the head with each finger as you move up and down the shaft. This will require less effort for you and greater sensation for him. His orgasm will occur much quicker and with much greater intensity.
Alex says
Handjobs are very underrated. When my wife uses lube for them (we use Astroglide), they feel so good. To answer a question above: How long a guy will last during a handjob…hard to tell. Usually with me about 10 minutes but my wife tries to stretch it out by teasing me a bit. She knows I’m not a huge fan of cumming on myself so she always makes that part of the experience really fun.
Mark says
A hand job, with a little bit of mouth action on the tip of the penis also works. The wife is stroking the penis slowly, but at the same time she’s putting the tip of the penis inside her mouth and licking it or sucking it every once in awhile. But only for a few seconds each time.
Afriend says
Re. Nancy’s comment about touching the penis very very lightly, my wife does this but without lube. Gently squeezing the balls, tracing her fingers lightly along the length and then lightly stroking the frenulum is exquisite. This is our sex life at the moment, usually once a week and it’s now starting to wear thin, only leading to orgasm about half the time (very frustrating!)
Maybe we need to branch out, try using lube and different holds.
Thanks for the great advice. I love this site.
Sara says
When I give my husband a hand job I almost always alternate a little with my mouth, for lube and stimulation, also to give my hand an arm a little break. When he comes I catch it in my mouth to keep from making a mess and not to waste the semen, which I consider precious. Also, he loves to see that. A hand job can be quite messy no matter what precautions you take. I would surely hate a child or other friend or relative come into our bedroom for some reason (or where we just had it) and see semen or semen stains that we missed on bed sheets, clothes, hair or whatever. It’s neater, cleaner and a lot more fun for him to finish in my mouth!
Mikey says
Very lucky husband! {jealous}
Mikey says
[Edited] My wife really knows how to give amazing handjobs. Sometimes they feel like blowjobs – which is a good thing, beings how she won’t suck me.. at all. That part is VERY disappointing. But none-the-less I do enjoy the visual of getting a handjob and we both enjoy the cumshot. I asked her one time how she learned to give such good handjobs, she said “by watching you” hahah.
We make love until she climaxes, then I pull out and she finishes me by hand, as she prefers not to have “my mess” leaking out of her. (I’m a big cummer)
Jerry says
Tell him not to cum, and then edge him for an hour… Ejaculation volume will be double of what it normally is… then shoot it on your breasts, vulva or somewhere else you both agree on!