The Long Slow Stroke Vulva Exploration Technique helps you and your spouse find her sensitive spot(s) during foreplay.
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How to Perform the Long Slow Stroke Vulva Exploration Technique
Both of you get into a comfortable position. We highly recommend the Entwine position. It’s a comfortable position that’s intimate and lets you feel connected while giving and receiving manual stimulation.
Start by lightly running one or two of your fingers from the bottom of her vulva up over her clitoris and back down as illustrated below. Switch up your strokes every once in a while by changing the pressure and starting at her clitoris instead of the bottom of her vagina. You can also switch between slow and fast strokes.
Communication is key. Ladies, the purpose of this manual stimulation technique is to get you warmed up and to figure out where you’re “hot spot(s)” is. Many women tell us they are sensitive in different areas at different times of their cycles. Communicate with your husband while he strokes you. Tell him exactly where it feels good. Guide him on how much pressure to apply or how fast to stroke you. Once both of you figure out where you’re “feeling it” he can concentrate on that area later during cunnilingus or other manual stimulation techniques.
- More Clitoral Stimulation: Add a dab of scream cream to your wife’s clitoris to add a tingling sensation. You can also rub her vulva with a vibrator instead of your fingers to really turn up the stimulation.
- Breast & Nipple Stimulation: Use your free hand or a pair of nipple suckers or pinchers to stimulate her nipples during this technique.