You should try something at least three times before you decide if you like it or not.
A few years ago, my wife decided to make a drastic change in her diet and only eat meals prepared using whole ingredients. Her cooking skills were limited at the time, and we quickly realized that she would need a lot of practice before her new, healthy meals were going to taste good. A few years and many botched meals later, her healthy cooked meals are fantastic! Also, she’s lost about 140lbs in part because of her healthy diet!
If she had given up after the first few botched meals, she would have never achieved the benefits of sticking with it. The same principle applies to your marriage bed. If you don’t give a new technique or type of stimulation a chance, you could miss out on a lot of great intimacy and connection with your spouse in your marriage bed.
This rule applies to everything from perfecting a new technique in your marriage bed to trying something like cunnilingus for the first time. When you try a new technique for the first time, it’s like riding a bike. It’ll probably take a few tries to get the hang of it. If you’re trying something new in your marriage bed for the first time, you must give it a few attempts before deciding if you like it. Your body might need a few experiences before it can appreciate the stimulation being given to it.
So, keep our golden rule in mind and give a new technique or type of stimulation a good, honest try before deciding if it’s a keeper.