But it should not apply universally. A no means no. If you don’t want to try something again, your partner should respect that, and if they continue to try convince you after you decide you don’t want to do it, then that is sexual coercion.

For this reason, I don’t like calling this a golden rule, because many many evangelical women are trained to not listen to their bodies and what feels good, so having yet another rule that tells them to ignore their body is the general opposite of what evangelical women need to hear now. Women need to hear that God designed their bodies to experience pleasure, and that their desires MATTER, both to God and their partners.

A better version of this “golden rule”: If you are unsure of a new sex technique, try it a few times. But if you don’t like it, stop and try something else.

(There are SO MANY different techniques there is no point in staying with something you don’t like.)