Enthusiasm. That’s it.
You don’t need to have a hot body or be an expert at lovemaking to make your husband happy in bed. Your husband loves you just as you are, and I’m sure he doesn’t expect you to know how to do everything perfectly. All he really wants from you in your marriage bed is for you to be enthusiastic about making love to him.
Sex = Love
Sex equals love to your husband. That’s how God made him. Your husband has a deep desire to express his love for you through sex. When he’s making love to you, he feels connected and loved. It’s the same feeling of being loved that you feel when your husband sits down and really listens to you and shares his day with you.
Tips for Being More Enthusiastic in Bed
The next few times you make love to your husband, do it enthusiastically, and make him the happiest man alive! Here are a few tips to being more enthusiastic in your marriage bed.
- Smile and show him that you’re happy to be spending this very special, intimate time with him.
- Be playful.
- Look him in the eyes, especially during foreplay and while making love to him.
- Get completely naked, and allow him to see your naked body that he loves so much.
- Touch his penis, and ensure him that you love that part of him too.
- Don’t be afraid to try something new. A good rule of thumb is to give it three good tries before you decide if you like it or not.
- Give him signals that you’re enjoying it. Don’t be afraid to moan or use other methods to show him that it feels good.
- Let go, and let your husband please you. Your enjoyment during sex is just as important to him as his.
- Help him please you by telling him what you like or how he should do something differently that would feel better. Keep your suggestions and critiques positive.
- Suggest a new technique during foreplay or position during intercourse that you want to try.
- Have fun!
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Two Cents says
These are really good suggestions and I’ll add a few of my own. I’d say learn how to touch his penis and ask him how he’d like it to be touched. Most men know exactly how they like their penis to be handled (because we’ve been handling them ourselves most of our lives). Also, learn how and ask about how they like a blowjob and invest in falling in love with the act itself. If you enjoy doing it your man will know, and it will make the experience 10 times more enjoyable for him.
G... says
I agree with the enthusiasm comment. If he knows that she is excited, having fun, wanting to be a bit adventurous, playful, he will, (and she will), enjoy sex so much more and will probably want to do it much more often… because they’re having fun together! Avoid sex being a check list, payback, chore, inconvenience, duty. Finally, pray that the Lord will help you get to this playful attitude about having FUN SEX with the only person on the face of the earth that you can DO IT with…
El says
What about her pleasure? Where’s the article for men about satisfying their wives in bed? Sex ALSO equals love for many women. Sheila Gregoire’s research on evangelical women and couples shows that when you also focus on her pleasure, then she’s much more likely to WANT to have more sex. Instead of just telling women to be more enthusiastic and please their husband, we should get curious and wonder why women aren’t interested in sex; usually it’s because she’s receiving obligation sex messages in church that turn sex into a chore, or because she’s shouldering too much of the mental load at home. Fix those problems, and many couples will see an increase in sexual frequency. But telling women to just be more enthusiastic can actually backfire, because it makes the obligation sex message stronger and kills her libido.